A few years ago, I remember my boss Ted tentatively passing on a question from our mutual boss Lindsey: Would I ever consider moving to Michigan? At the time I was a remote employee of my team living in my native state of Florida. I’d joined my company in one role, then been in the […]
Today a dear friend of mine told me they had recently read a post I made back in April of 2021 titled One Out of 326 Million. I have a terrible memory and can’t recall the content of most of my writing by title alone, so I went back and re-read it. I told my […]
Adding another outdoor activity to my list of loves this winter has been great. Snowboarding is challenging, athletic, and fun. Thanks to the wonder of man-made snow, I can go to any number of “resorts” here in the Metro Detroit area whether the winter weather has been cooperating or not. I can go on a […]
We publicly celebrate birthdays, romantic longevity anniversaries, and work anniversaries. We also mark sad anniversaries, like deaths and endings, but we do those privately and without support in many cases. In the next few days, I have two anniversaries. One marks the end of a relationship, and one is my birthday. Birthdays are generally a […]
I should never contemplate myself at 1:00 am in the mirror of a hotel bathroom far from home. The poor lighting brings out the grey hairs and the wrinkles. No comfort can be found here. No snuggly pets, no favorite pillow. I’ve been looking forward to this trip for a few weeks now, so it’s […]
I have been afraid of love for a few years now. I’ve started to view it as a kind of mental illness. It can certainly make you do crazy things. I’ve been in love. A few times. The last time I fell in love, around 15 years ago, I very clearly remember thinking, “I hope […]
Just over a week ago I was at a conference in Austin, Texas. A group of about ten of us from my company were all there, so, as you do at conferences, we went out every night. On the first night, we were all enjoying some late cocktails at the hotel’s open air bar when […]
So Ealish posted a thing on Facebook, and it being about music, commenting ensued. Cindy made what I feel to be a completely unprovoked attack (joking, Cynthia) on one of my all-time personal favorite songs, Drops of Jupiter. Having not heard it in awhile, I put on my headphones and commanded Siri to play it […]
I’ve figured out a positive aspect of not having a boyfriend. On these unpredictably random days when I’ve got Pointless Anxiety draped over my shoulders like an ugly scarf, I don’t have anybody to project my BS onto. If you’re unfamiliar with Pointless Anxiety, it creeps into my rational brain and tells me that there […]
Mine is not an unusual story. At 39, I find myself standing again at the edge of the dating pool, after seven months of singledom. Before then, I’d been with a wonderful man for eleven and a half years. Our relationship was comfortable and easy, but as happens, the flame of romantic love had burned […]
Steffanie Is Still Here 